Sticking with the theme of happiness and exploring what happiness means and why we chase it so much, I present you with one of my absolute favorite quotes about happiness.
“So, I’ve been thinking about this whole being happy thing, and I feel like people get lost when they think of happiness as a destination. We’re always thinking that someday we’ll be happy; we’ll get that car or that job or that person in our lives that’ll fix everything. But happiness is a mood, and it’s a condition, not a destination. It’s like being tired or hungry, it’s not permanent. It comes and goes, and that’s okay. And I feel like if people thought of it that way, they’d find happiness more often.” -Julian, One Tree Hill season 8
I love this quote so much. It’s something I often think about when I am feeling down and feel like I won’t ever be happy again.
Because, let’s be real, happiness is hard to find sometimes. Sometimes, happiness seems like it will never come to us ever again – that we will be without it for the rest of our lives. And people deal with this in different ways.
Sometimes, they decide to chase after things that they think will bring them happiness: a new job, a new relationship, a new car, new stuff, etc.
Sometimes, they decide that they won’t ever find happiness so they sabotage things unknowingly and they stop doing things that bring them happiness because they can’t seem to keep happiness in their reach.
But if you’ve struggled with losing happiness and trying to find it again, you know that these things don’t work.
It doesn’t matter how many new jobs you get or new toys, they won’t bring you happiness. It doesn’t matter if you have all the money you will ever need. Happiness is more than that – it is all of the pieces together.
And when you stop doing things that make you happy: eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep, etc., you will just fall deeper into thinking you will never find happiness.
But as the above quote suggests, happiness is not somewhere you are headed. No one is happy 100% of the time. That just doesn’t happen. No mood is permanent – it’s the best thing about moods.
And, I agree. If we could all just remember that happiness is a mood – something fluid that changes and comes and goes, I think we would all be able to relax a little bit and find happiness a little bit more.
Because happiness is really found in the little things. It’s in the hug that lasts just as long as you need it to. It’s the piece of cake that you’ve saved and eat slowly, tasting every single bit. It’s the really great salad that you eat for lunch. It’s the feeling you get when you realize that you’ve finally done something that you never thought you would.
Happiness is a feeling. Yes, it’s a feeling that we’re all chasing. But maybe the key is that we stop chasing it and we start just doing the things that make us happy and realize that happiness will return, just like most of our moods.
Do you agree with this? How do you feel about chasing happiness? What about this rings true with you most?