I do not believe that I am homophobic. I believe that I am actually very open and just want the people that I love to be happy. But I have a very curious question.
I was at the movies the other day, Valentine’s Day in fact (and yes, I went alone…and why, yes, I did see The Vow…by myself…on Valentine’s Day – but don’t worry, I really enjoy going to movies alone). Anyway, I saw two girls who looked like they were maybe just out of high school, so probably college aged sitting together when I got there. I saw numerous couples walking in, holding hands and chatting and trying to find seats. When I saw the two girls, I automatically assumed that they were friends. They were already in their seats when I got there, so I have no point of reference of how they entered the theater, decided where to sit, etc.
But I automatically assumed. They were friends. Maybe even best friends. But they were not in a relationship.
And I do this. A lot.
And my question is: does this make me homophobic? Or does it just mean that I am pushing my own experiences onto other people?
Because, you see, I would totally have gone with one of my best friends (if they lived closer) to see this movie. I really would have.
And I’m not gay or bisexual.
But I know people who are. And I know people who have dabbled in curiosity with it.
My sister has been dating a girl (well, they’re both women really if we want to be technical) for four or five years now. I had a close friend in college that was dating another girl. One of the people that I was RAs with was gay. I was not uncomfortable, am not uncomfortable, with any of this.
But when I see two girls together at the movies, I assume they are friends. Because if I were there with a girl, she would be my friend. Possibly a new friend, possibly my best friend. But that would be it.
And I worry that this makes me slightly homophobic. But I don’t know.
This entry might be very un-PC. It might be disjointed. It might not make sense.
But if you were able to wrap your head around what I’ve said, please let me know what you think.
Am I homophobic or am I just putting everything into my frame of reference? Do you know many gay/bisexual people? Are any of your close family or friends gay or bisexual? Please share, I’m interested 🙂